18 years ago I became a mum for the first time. From early on in my pregnancy it was clear that I would be doing it alone. You know what that was totally cool. I had the support of my parents and extended family. 3 days I was in labour, 3 days of pain and limited sleep. But the best present I could ask for was the birth of my first born. We have been through so much together but one thing always remained, I was his mum and he was my son. Over the years Kane has smashed his goals, he excelled in both his GCSE’s and again his A Levels. Whatever grade he got I would have been proud as he put his all into them.
My Eldest Heads To Uni
Tomorrow he starts a new chapter in his life. A chapter that will take him hundreds of miles away from his family to start a new journey. Kane has been accepted into Newcastle to study Media an interest he has had for many years. I know as we board the boat tomorrow that Kane will never be back to live with us. Most kids that go to English Uni’s don’t come back to Northern Ireland as the career prospects are much better over there. He is chasing his dreams and I couldn’t be prouder. He is going after what we wants and in some ways, I can live my previous dreams/aspirations through him. He really does have an amazing experience ahead of him. One that he will learn to fend for himself after a crash course in cookery from my mum. (I’m secretly hoping he gets a restaurant job so he eats well whilst on shift ha) His washing will no longer be placed back in his room washed and ironed. he will have to learn to manage his money and not blow it on a few nights out.
Getting ready has been somewhat hilarious. As I mentioned above we driving him over. Yes, we drive a jeep but he thinks he can take the entire contents of his room. 10 pairs of shoes and 7 coats made an appearance plus 3 pairs of swim shorts lol. Thank goodness we managed to get the clothing quantities under control and we managed to get him down to a very large suitcase. The student accommodation that he is moving into has provided a very small selection of cooking bits which meant we needed to stock up. We added some homely bits like a plant which he will probably kill and a nice rug just to add a bit of warmth to the stark bedroom. A full mini Ikea haul is linked below if you want an idea of what we bought him.
I know I need to be brave for his sake. Yes, I will hold the tears in until we leave, so I don’t embarrass him in front of his new housemates. My emotions aside he is the first of my children to fly the nest and head to uni and I’m super proud of all his achievements. I can’t wait to see what his future brings and what path he follows in terms of career choices after uni.